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Two types of population are very frustrating and puzzling to their requisite others, those with Avoidant Personalities and those with Schizoid personalities.
Do You Avoid People? Go From "Fearful" to "Formidable" in Just Days!
Avoidant Personality
Those who suffer from the Avoidant Personality Disorder feel insecure, impotent, helpless, and deficient in self-esteem. As a result, they are withdrawn and socially detached or distant.
They are very self-conscious about their perceived shortcomings and are hypersensitive and hypervigilant for signs of rejection or disapproval. In ultimate cases, even the slightest, most benign and well intentioned criticism or difference can be perceived as embarrassing, abusive or rejecting.
Therefore, in order to avoid such perceived rejection, the Avoidant personality tries, as much as possible, to avoid social and other situations that require close perceive with others. That would comprise any number of situations that are part and parcel of daily life, such as attending weddings, engaging population to supper or other social events or attending college classes or seminars, to name just a few.
Not surprisingly, Avoidant types find it roughly impossible to engage in intimate relationships. They often test the possibility of a association by tip-toeing into it and scrupulously assessing whether the other someone will accept them close to, or totally unconditionally.
They desperately require ongoing reassurance to enable them to feel attractive, validated, requisite etc. population often view those with Avoidant personalities as shy, timid, withdrawn, quiet, tentative, distant, tense, insecure, inhibited and sometimes, even "stuck-up" because of the interactive "distance" they maintain.
Avoidant types typically have vigilant interactive styles and are very rigorous and self-protective when with others, causing others to have troubling doubts about them! They believe, in the background, if not in the forefront of their minds, not only that they are socially and interpersonally incompetent, but that others simply do not like them.
They entertain these assumptions so strongly that they may explicate a assuredly clear message from someone as negative in some way. For instance, they may view an honest offer of help conveyed by someone as just a form of deception or manipulation.
When in the proximity of others, Avoidant types are commonly withdrawn and very tentative. When unavoidably involved socially, they spin an empty-sounding humility and and a very "under-stated" persona.
To the Avoidant, this strategy makes the occurrence of criticism or difference from others less likely.
Schizoid personalities.
Schizoid types are similar to Avoidants in interpersonal distancing, but for a separate reason. The imagine relates to the their perceive of pleasure, reward and satisfaction.
You see they have none; they have a very difficult time feeling good or satisfaction about much of anything. Enjoyment or real satisfaction is hardly ever seen on their faces.
The term for the inability to perceive satisfaction is "anhedonia." Those who know schizoid population see them as distant, disinterested, unengaged and "just going straight through the motions."
Sounds like depression or Avoidant personality, doesn't it, but it is not. Schizoid types appear merely indifferent and totally uncaring about the impact of social interaction, engagement and relationships.
They have a very restricted range of emotions, rarely express any feelings and are simply unable to feel "intimacy" with anyone. Because of this, the schizoid's requisite other, if he has one, often feels lonely and "empty."
They are even indifferent to sex, rarely showing any interest. This causes more problems for any requisite others because they do not feel valued or attractive.
It is a very emotionally impoverished personality type; they create the impression of being distant, indifferent, flat, uncaring and emotionally stunted. Close family or social groups give them no feelings of intimacy, closeness or satisfaction.
They would rather do things by themselves and are very solitary in their lifestyle. Vocationally, they tend to work in occupations that are cut-and-dried. You know what they say about accountants and engineers!
They are relatively rigid and lack cognitive flexibility in the way they deal with issues. Faced with changes that require this flexibility, their coping skills may manifest signs of deterioration and they may act-out.
They portray the impression of not caring what others think and they appear to cleave to mindless routine. They do not talk effectively to social stimuli, social triggers or interactions. They are not "deep" and often have little, of any consequence, to say.
What about expert Help?
Professional help usually involves:
1. Personel counseling or psychotherapy. The purpose of counseling is to understand yourself and your situation clearer.
You get objective feedback, reserve and advice from a expert with perceive in treating abuse in relationships.
2. Group therapy. Attending therapy in a group setting desensitizes you to your anxiety and teaches you how to spin great in an environment which is, itself, social.
You get objective feedback, reserve and guidance, not only from a professional, but from your peers experiencing similar problems as you. Money should not deter you because both types of counseling can be received from inexpressive practitioners and non-profit sliding scale society agencies.
3. Cognitive therapy-oriented self-therapy kits (Stks) and articles and books.
If going to counseling seems initially like too big a step, reading articles and books, attending seminars and using cognitive therapy-oriented self-therapy or home therapy kits (Stks) can help. Stks are self-help programs that use cognitive therapy to tutor you, step-by-step on how to deal with your social engagement anxiety.
As opposed to books and articles, they teach assertive social skills using cognitive therapy in a multimedia format: Cds, Dvds, Mp3s, e-books, workbooks, audios, videos etc. Cognitive-behavioral tutoring on how to come to be engaged in relationships can be very helpful.
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